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Love at the time of disbelief. Meeting the one
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Love at the time of disbelief. Meeting the one

When suddenly there’s love at the time of disbelief, meeting the one seems to be unreal. I thought I wasn’t lucky in romance, especially when the distance is involved. It wasn’t that bad; it just didn’t work out well before. But this time, it’s different.

Love at the time of disbelief

He asked, “What’s it like?”

He had no idea how a long-distance relationship works.

For the record, I already had 5 years in total in this kind of thing.

Why don’t you try again?” he asked as though he was hinting at something.

NO,” I answered firmly. I still have some issues about, and perhaps some attachment with my past romance.

He didn’t reply. We continued to chill out in silence on the beach. It was the first time we spent time together as super friends. We were still strangers to each other, not even sweet, nor was no sign of romance in the air.

I went back to Manila. He stayed in Cebu, hopping from one island to another and kept in touch, though.

He wanted to see me again. It was probably love at first sight for him. (I presumed. As for me, I didn’t know how to feel towards him. I thought he was nice, but at the same time, the way he stared at me made me feel like there was something.)

I couldn’t tell him the personal reason why  I couldn’t see him, so I reasoned that I was busy at work and couldn’t afford to venture into another trip as I had just got back from one.

( Although, deep inside me, I also wanted to see him again too! )

But then again, only time could tell if this was going to bloom into love so why let disbelief get in the way?

Meeting the one

The most surprising thing happened. I found myself flying to Bohol to see him again and spend a week vacation at a hotel resort. Then, I made a life-changing decision (that’s for another writing).

He proved to me later on that people, sometimes, are prone to bad impressions. We may not like them at first because we didn’t feel any interest. But the connection doesn’t happen overnight. It takes a while to touch someone’s heart. As the days went by, there was some feeling growing stronger inside me. And that sort of thing that’s exciting.

I took the flight and met with him. He picked me up from the port in Bohol. Our second meeting was cool. There were no pretensions, no dramas, no boundaries. We were natural. He confessed his feelings for me which surprised me because I had never met a guy who was as a gentleman, as decent and as candid as he is. That’s why I admire him greatly.

And although I forewarned him that I wasn’t keen on falling in love again (because he’s a traveller), he persevered. (Fact: Real Men know what they want, and they pursue it) Remember Why I didn’t want to fall in love with a traveller.

Despite that, he showed me how willing he was to start a new journey with me. My heart knew something was about to go right.

“For the first time in my life, someone is going to take me and our relationship seriously without considering distance a hindrance.  He’s a very thoughtful person with a genuine personality and sensible that added to my affection for him. I must admit, though, I was more experienced in this kind of relationship, but I was dithering, perhaps because it was real. Although in deep disbelief, the time for a new love probably was about to begin.

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Love at the time of disbelief. Meeting the one

The trip ended, sadly. He flew back to Germany, and I returned to Manila. It’s crazy.

We’ve known each other for only a couple of months, but it feels like we’ve been together for ages. When we were about to part ways at the airport in Cebu, we were sobbing like kids.

It was like a movie scene. Everybody was staring at us. I handed him a letter saying thank you for the good times that made him shed tears even harder. ( Men love letters, it makes them feel love )

Then, I boarded the plane.  By far, that’s one of my most favourite travel stories.

The truth about love, distance and disbelief

Love means taking risks. Distance should not matter, sometimes. If two are willing to be together again, what’s the distance? Even if we’re a thousand miles away, he’s always supportive. From helping me in my plan to move abroad to small cute random stuff.

Love can make you do hilarious things sometimes, and that’s just adorably sweet.

You shouldn’t doubt love. You shouldn’t doubt your feelings.  Love happens at an unexpected moment, but what excites us the most is the story that will grow despite the distance. I told him I couldn’t do this long-distance relationship for the rest of my life and gladly, “We’re on the same page! We share the same vision and goal.”  Distance is just temporary—bliss at its finest.

Fate. We can’t tell what the future holds. We don’t know what tomorrow brings, but whatever that is, all I know is that we’re meeting again in August! And I can’t wait for another beautiful adventure with this sweet blue-green-eyed guy who never fails to bring out the best in me!

And because of that, he gives me the meaning of real love. In the end, I swallowed my own words of not entertaining someone who’s miles away from me.

It doesn’t matter now. He changed my belief about the (in)existence of real men. One absolute thing that he made me realize is, real men exist. And they’re not afraid to show their love. Looking back, I’m glad that at the time of my disbelief didn’t hinder me from giving this blooming love a chance.

If you ever found someone like him, don’t ever let him go. He is worth keeping and worth every single mile. 

So far, he’s one of the main reasons why I love Bohol. How about you? Do you have a similar story? Have you met someone so special during your travels? 

Born, raised, and forever loyal to the Philippines. Catherine is a teacher who writes and a writer who teaches. She writes every day. She's in love with Africa, beaches, and books. Her favorite books are " There Is No Me Without you, One woman's Odyssey to Rescue African's children, and "Three Cups of Tea: One Man's Mission to Promote Peace. One School at a Time". And her ultimate dream destinations are Madagascar and Hawaii. Check out more of her stories on her blog.

16 Comments

  • Lara

    Lovely! I kind of can relate but I don’t want to share yet. You should be having guest posts too! So they can share some of their similar story! ?

  • Jec

    I was believed that long distance relationship sucks. But from your story, I guess I’ll give another shot. It’s just a matter of right decision and taking risks.
    Good luck on your travel this August with him! Will tune in for more of your love stories. Thumbs up! 🙂

  • Marge

    You thought you weren’t lucky in love? Adik ka ba?! Hahahaha.. So ano palang tawag sa kin kung sa lagay na yan you thought you were unlucky. On the contrary, luck is always on your side in this department. You never had to wait so long to find love unlike me lol.

    I think you know already that I was very doubtful about this relationship the first time you mentioned this to me. I told our friends, I want to be proven wrong because in the end I want you to be happy. And since you are happy with him wala na ko masasabi. So be thankful that you found this guy and make sure to reciprocate his kindness and his love. Goodluck to you two!

  • Catherine Mendoza

    hahhhaa maybe when distance is involve Marge! HAHA Ouy hindi rin! I had to wait and you know all of those that had happened to me! haha thanks so much for your support! We are truly friends! indeed, he’s so amazing and I couldn’t ask for more. He actually changed my belief about real men. Thank you ! Wishing you all the luck in the world too! X

  • Catherine Mendoza

    Long distance sometimes does suck, that’s so true and actually so difficult. But like what I’ve said, it only works if two people have the same goal and vision. Just give it a shot, you go girl! There’s no harm in trying! Just keep loving! Yeey! Can’t wait too! haha tune in for more kilig stories! Thanks loves for your support! X

  • Jerny

    Ikaw na tlga Cathy! Matinde ang kamandag hahaha jk! Anyway, we’re seeing you as a happy girl again and we’re happy that this guy is bringing this happiness to you! I hope you last and invite mo kami ah! Hahaha! Ingat and we love you lots Cathy!

  • Swayam Tiwari

    I’ve never come across a post that talks about love and travel in the same breath. I have never fallen in love so cannot quite empathise with you but am sure that your feelings have a ring of truth and honesty in them. Be clear in your feelings and the universe will conspire to help you out of tough situations.

  • Amir Arsad

    I found this blog through Couchsurfing because i’m looking for host in Manila and i will be in Manila next week. This is my 2nd time to be in Manila and my 3rd time to be in Philippines.

    I read your story and it reminds me about why Manila is my favorite destination and make me feel want to come back again. Because i found love in Manila but our relationship can’t be happened. Now i moved on but i still want to come back again to Manila, maybe to take back my broken pieces of heart. LOL.

  • Janine Thomas

    I believe that fate always plays a hand in our destinies. Distance should not matter. If you are happy thats fabulous! I hope you stay that way for many years to come!

  • Katherine

    There are so many things I want to say about this that I don’t know where to start. It’s great that you took a chance again. I think that’s what love is about. When a relationship doesn’t work out, you have to take all the lessons from it and be a better person for the next one.

  • Ashley

    What a romantic tale, I hope everything works out for you two. I absolutely love stories of love on the road.

  • sumit walia

    an article from the heart , hope is the basis of human existence , all the very best for the future coming ahead

  • Ann Yamagishi

    There is this song that made me think upon reading this post of yours, Vanessa Carlton’s ” A Thousand Miles” . Best of luck, nurture and take care of it. 🙂

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